THE TRANSFORMATION INTO MOTHERHOOD

” IF NOTHING EVER CHANGED THERE WOULD BE NO BUTTERFLIES ” – UNKNOWN 

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Just as a caterpillar goes though metamorphosis to become a butterfly , so does a woman as she goes through the life creating process – From Pre conception , to pregnancy , to birth and finally to motherhood . A life changing transformation takes place; not only will she birth a baby but she will also give birth to another part of herself that never existed before she became a mother .

I remember a few months back I was working with a client and she asked me to tell her what changes she was going to go through after she had her baby . Everyone who becomes a mother has different parts and aspects of themselves that emerge .  You really can’t predict how you are going to feel or be . Some things will matter to you like they never did before well other things that meant a lot won’t any more . When a caterpillar goes into the cocoon , they don’t know what they are going to be like when they come out . Some  butterflies may have blue and pink spots on their wings or some yellow and orange stripes . The same  goes for a woman going through the transformation into motherhood  you will emerge a new .

I do believe that we lead by example , what we do with ourselves we most likely will do with our children . Example : If you eat healthy , organic whole foods chances are you are going to feed your children the same .. why would you take your kids to McDonalds when you don’t even allow yourself to eat that food ?

One of the things I do  with my Rooted for life pregnancy clients to help prepare them for motherhood and being a good role model by being a living example, it is to give them a monthly theme to work on . I like to use the pregnancy time ( being in the cocoon ) to not only create a strong foundation for your growing baby but to  do a little inner transformational work on yourself as well.

Here is a little taster of some of the themes we work in depth on – 

 HEALTHY MOMMY = HEALTHY BABY – ( pre pregnancy – month 1) This month is the foundation for all the months and years to come . Like I said above the healthier you live so will your children. Clean up your diet , get rid of toxic cleaning supplies and toxic body products . Use natural products , eat whole organic foods that feed you and your developing baby ,establish a good exercise and stress reduction program .

MOTHERING YOURSELF  -( month 2 ) chances are you are having some morning sickness and are pretty tired by now  . This is a time to tune into your needs , nurture yourself and honor where you are at . This is when you learn to put that oxygen mask first on yourself so that you can then assist others . How can you take care of another if you can’t or don’t take care of your self ?

SELF LOVE- ( Month 3 ) It’s such a cliche but soooooo true !!! How can you truly love another if you don’t first love yourself . This is a great time to establish and practice some boundaries . If we don’t have boundaries we are constantly letting people walk all over us and tend to say yes when we really want to say no . Respect yourself to walk away from anything or anyone that hurts you , start doing things that make you feel good and bring you joy . Treat yourself like you matter and are special ( because you are ) . You want your kids to know self love ? Then be a mirror and reflect what it is to be it.

BE PRESENT – ( month 4 ) Kids grow so fast , your pregnancy will be over before you know it , play around this month with being in the moment . When you do this you experience all the beauty the world has to offer . What ever you are doing, be present with it . If you are at dinner with you husband be there , don’t be checking your phone or in your mind about all the things you need to do just enjoy your time with him . If you are exercising feel your body moving and heart pumping , same with yoga – breathe into where you are tight , when a thought comes into your head bring the attention back to your breath and body . If you are working , then be at work , if you are eating , eat and taste your food , feel your self chewing , notice the smell and colors .Also being present means being present with the way you are feeling and allowing yourself to have your emotions . when you are ok with your own sadness , anger and fear you will be able to handle with compassion and empathy your child’s emotions.

 BECOME AWARE YOUR CHILDHOOD WOUNDS ( Month 5 ) – If we are unconscious of our own stuff we can easily put it onto our kids . No childhood is perfect , if there is some healing work to be done with your past now is the time to do it . Don’t use your children to heal  through it’s not theirs to take on .

TUNING INTO YOUR NEEDS AND WHAT FEELS RIGHT – ( INTUITION ) – (Month 6 )- I always say not everyone is born with motherly instincts but one thing we are all born with ( especially women is intuition ) During your pregnancy and after you have your baby you are going to get EVERYONES opinion on what they think is right for you . Now is the time to explore and really make choices that FEEL right for you . Don’t make them out of fear or because someone told you to only If it feels right then do it . Play with following your hunches , do what feels right for you even if it might not make sense .

EMBRACE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF -( Month 7) – When you are ok with you, all that you are and  every aspect of yourself, even your shadow( as we all have one) then you will be able to accept , embrace and appreciate others individuality . If you are holding a part of yourself back for fear or not being excepted let it out and let your self shine in the truth of who you really are . When you are truly being yourself and comfortable with it you will attract others of like mindedness .

LETTING GO OF THE OLD / DE CLUTTERING YOUR LIFE – (Month 8) – Your nesting instants have probably kicked in by now and you are getting rid of and cleaning everything . This is awesome ! You need to get rid of the old and anything thats taking up space in your life to  make room for all the new that is about to come in . Take inventory of your friendships , relationships and certain situations in your life that no longer serve you and create some space healthy space within them .

RESTORE / CREATE A SACRED SPACE IN YOUR HOME TO RELAX ( month 9 )– There is always a calm before A storm . Enjoy the peace and solitude of right now . Let yourself charge up your batteries for the birth and the needs of your new baby. Find and establish a peaceful place in your home where you can go to read , nap , watch tv or just be . My sacred space is my bedroom; I light candles , crawl into my bed with my dogs , turn off my phone and unplug from the world , watch tv , have tea , read and listen to music . You will end up  establishing a bond with this place and equate it with peace . It will become your sanctuary , a place to go  after your baby comes to unwind and recharge .

Other themes I might integrate are mindfulness , patience  , living in joy  and gratitude , letting go and going with the flow … for more go to:

http://www.rootedforlife.com

or email me at :

Lori@rootedforlife.com

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