YOUR WORDS HOLD AMAZING POWER

WORDS CAN EITHER HURT (Low vibration) OR HEAL( High vibration ) … CHOOSE WISLEY WHEN SPEAKING WITH YOUR CHILDREN AND OTHERS. SPEAK FROM YOUR HEART WITH LOVE, EMPATHY AND COMPASSION .

NOT GIVING YOUR FEARS POWER

I LOVE THIS STORY AND IT IS SO TRUE !!!!

“Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn’t want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, “May I have permission to go into battle with you?” Fear said, “Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission.” Then the young warrior said, “How can I defeat you?” Fear replied, “My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.” In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear. “

— Pema Chödrön (When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times)  

In my line of work I am constantly putting out the fires of fear daily with my clients . I remember something my father once told me and I have found it to be very true , 99%of the things we worry about never happen . Also if you look hard enough for something to freak you out you will find it . Fertility , Pregnancy , birth and being a new mother is scary enough even with out all the media preying on all your fears . Stay off the internet because even if you don’t have a problem I can assure you , you will find one on there.

A lot of the things we worry about also are the what if’s of life … When you can focus on the present moment or the task at hand of whats in front of you right now the future will take care of it’s self . After all it’s this moment now ( all we really know to be true ) that is creating our future . If you find yourself worrying about the future, it’s pretty easy just bring your mind and attention back to the present moment .

Much of our fear is in our heads , however be cautious as our mind does affect our bodies . Fear can shut us down and paralyze us from moving forward . In body mind , fear make your body frozen and the energy stops moving , causing blocks which keeps your body from functioning properly . I was working with a woman going through infertility , she was terrified she wouldn’t get pregnant . The fear in her head was causing tons of stress in her body , which was preventing her from conceiving . After helping her connect with her truth of what was real and what wasn’t , teaching her that she had control over her thoughts and could choose not to allow fear based ones in and managing her stress by doing yoga , meditation , focusing on the now and daily journal work , I am proud to say she is 5 months pregnant and thriving .

I am reading the book” pre parenting” by Thomas Verny . In his book there is scientific evidence  that fear based , stressed and anxious pregnant women tend to have fear based and anxious babies . These babies  have colic and harder time sleeping and bonding.

I just worked with a client who was on bed rest and had a list of worries . I listened to her and some how intuitively kept hearing her mothers voice . I asked her if her mother was a worrier and she said the biggest one you have ever met . I then asked her do you really believe all those fears to be true and she thought about the list of worries and said, ” no , I know that me and my baby and everything else will be ok . I gave her a program for bed rest to help make use of the time so she wasn’t just sitting there with nothing to do but worry . I also had her watch her thoughts and notice who’s fear and voice it was  . And then to always ask herself is this really my truth . After seeing how her mother projected her fear onto her, she made a decision right then and there to break this pattern and not to pass this fear on the little baby growing inside of her. You can control your thoughts , simply acknowledge the fear , thank it for showing up , tell it to go way as this way of thinking isn’t serving you anymore , then replace those thoughts with something healthy .

Here is a great exercise I do in my classes and with my clients to get this point across to see how simple it is to shift your thinking just like that . 

On a piece of paper , for 2 minutes ,write anything down that you are worried , anxious or stressed out about . Let it rip , go crazy get it out of your body and onto paper . 

When 2 min are up right away switch gears and for 2 more minutes focus on whats going on in the now , give gratitude for what you have , what are the positive things that are happening , what are you excited about ? 

Just like you did on paper you can do the same thing in your head when thinking fear based thoughts . Let yourself hear them as they need to be herd but if you find it not to be your truth then switch gears and focus on something else .

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