Ladies … I have to say we are pretty f–king awesome beings ! The things we can do with our bodies are beyond magical . Just to mention a few of these amazing things like creating a baby , carrying and nourishing that baby within, birthing them and feeding them from all our bodies . We do all of these things as women naturally and organically , our bodies are designed for this . It’s pretty incredible and totally empowering to be a women if you ask me !!!
Even though our bodies are designed for this , all of us have our own limitations , pain thresholds and different levels of comfort . Every women , pregnancy , child and birth is different As a healer one of the things I have been taught and practice is not to push anyone further then they are ready or capable of going . A huge part of my doula practice is healing , I bring all different kinds of healing into the birth exerience , intuitively tuning into my client and who they are as an individual while feeling everything they are feeling .
Over the many years of being a doula I have found most women ask for medical intervention way before they really need it , I call this the first gate we walk thru . I will say ,” you are handling this so well can we try breathing a little longer?” 100% of the time they say ” ok “. ( again I sense by tuning in watching the way they are breathing , moving and managing each contraction ) This goes on usually for a while they usually ask again and again , almost like they are testing . If I sense they are cool I might ask , ” Do you really want to to do that ” and 98% of the time they say no, so we keep moving forward .
At some point we hit the point which I like to call the door . Now this door is thick , strong and hard to break thru it . You bang up against it over and over again , your body begins to rattle with spasms that make every part of your body ache and hurt , you want to surrender , die and give up as going up against and trying break down this door is taking everything out of you . At this point some women need to get help by having an epidural ( and let me say right now I have no judgements – It is my job to support everyones choices and respect their own personal limits. I also find it empowering when a woman knows herself and her limits enough to ask for help for what she needs ) . In saying that, I always have them look me in the eye and tune into them feeling where they are at .. If they are at their limit where they are suffering , beyond the point of managing, where they are resisting , stressed and fighting against the process , I by all means get them help .
If you keep going up against this door , sooner or later you will break through it . On the other side of this doorway , when you begin to loose control and are at your breaking point there is this beautiful magical force stronger than anything you could ever imagine that will enter your body and take over . This is the force of the great powerful mother , it’s a strength that we all have as women but some never tap into . It’s that power that you hear about in the news of the mother who lifts the car off her child that was run over . This force will take over and get it done !! But You have to be able break through that solid door to get to it and not everyone is meant to bust through this door way . Even though we all are women and possess this magical power we are still individuals with different levels of pain thresholds and limits that make us who we are . Over the past 10 years I have never come across two of the same women , births or children . Birth is an individual process , yes it is a totally organic and natural as a collective but each woman , birth and child is different and that is what makes us all unique .
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