Carving out the sacred space and time for Recharging , Bonding and Connecting With baby Post Birth




Ladies I can not stress this enough .. Please carve out a period of time post birth just to simply be , rest and bond with your new baby . I see women out all the time right after birth ,running all around like crazy doing stuff and Then totally crash 4-6 months later .

During pregnancy your internal being and  body are going through a huge huge transformation . It takes a lot of energy to make and birth a baby your body needs time to recover and regain its strength . You need the space to integrate this new part of yourself and baby into your life . By surrendering and allowing yourself to have this scared space of time you will be able to find your way and better understand your baby’s needs and cues.  There is a thing called the 40 day rule that is practiced in cultures all over the world where the new mom stays home for the first 40 days post birth and just relaxes and bonds with her baby . The people that practice this have  the women from their family or community  come bring food , do light chores ,run errands , hold  and watch the baby so mom can shower, eat  maybe even sleep for a bit . Many of us don’t live near our families and unfortunately some are uncomfortable asking for help from others … I  highly suggest hiring a  postpartum doula that can come in for a few hours a day to support you .

I have talked about the post birth period as a time of integration and transition … A butterfly that emerges from its cocoon doesn’t fly right away , it hangs out on the cocoon flapping its wings for a while before it flies  . Post birth you are that emerging butterfly the more you can just STOP , hang out and find your way the easier time you will have with this HUGE life changing transition you just went through and the  stronger your wings will be to fly . In order for your baby to thrive and imprint properly they must return to their original home / habitat after birth and that is  by being with you . – Creating a solid foundation for both you and your child to grow from


3 Responses to “Carving out the sacred space and time for Recharging , Bonding and Connecting With baby Post Birth”

  1. 1 Jenna Binder March 28, 2014 at 9:56 pm

    Yes!!! Great article. Xx

    Sent from my iPhone


  2. 3 HarlemGal Inc. March 28, 2014 at 11:10 pm

    Omg. I’m so sharing this. Well said/explained; and I wish more women expecting would do this.

    In the Mexican American culture, well at least in my family, we practice this 40 day rule. We do not leave the home at all. As a matter of fact the only people who get to see the baby during this period are family members only. And they have to come to the house. Lol.

    In nyc I allowed only close friends to see my baby during this time since most of my family is in NM. But I would get the little remarks, you’re really not getting out of your apt with the baby for 40 days? You’ll go crazy, etc, etc. My response: yes, what’s the rush? I want to bond with my baby girl and My baby girl will ride the NYC subway soon enough.

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